Navigating the tumultuous waters of new motherhood, I found myself clinging to the notion that I wasn't alone in this journey. With every sleepless night and hormonal wave, my relationship with my partner felt the strain—as I'm sure many of you can relate. I'm peeling back the layers of this often unspoken reality, sharing stories and insights that recognize the profound impact of postpartum changes on both personal and relationship health. Understanding these trials is integral, and I'm here to offer that empathetic ear.
Through candid conversations about the critical importance of recognizing the changes your body is going through combined with sleep deprivation, I'm spotlighting the necessity for new moms to put their well-being on the priority list. Adjusting expectations and embracing new priorities isn’t just suggested, it’s essential for your health and that of your family. Here’s to finding solace, strength, and support as we navigate the beautiful, messy journey of parenthood together.
In this episode, Jenny addresses the challenges faced by new moms and the importance of discussing these issues. She highlights the physical changes that occur after having a baby, including hormonal shifts and the potential for postpartum depression. Jenny also emphasizes the impact of sleep deprivation and the need for self-care. She discusses the strain that having a child can put on a marriage and the importance of communication and understanding. Jenny encourages women to give themselves and their partners grace during this challenging time and offers resources for support.
Takeaways
· New moms face a range of challenges, including physical changes, hormonal shifts, and sleep deprivation.
· Postpartum depression is a common experience for many women and should be addressed with medical support.
· Marriage problems after having a child are normal and require open communication and understanding.
· Self-care is crucial for new moms, including seeking medical support and taking time for oneself.
· Partners should be given space and grace during this time of transition, and communication is key.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:59 The Challenges of Being a New Mom
04:22 Hormonal Shifts and Postpartum Depression
06:19 Marriage Problems After Having a Child
08:40 Sleep Deprivation and Self-Care
11:36 Getting to Know Each Other Again
23:31 Men's Hormonal Shifts and Fear of Aging
26:28 Giving Each Other Space and Grace
29:21 Acknowledging the Difficulty and Seeking Support
Navigating the tumultuous waters of new motherhood, I found myself clinging to the notion that I wasn't alone in this journey. With every sleepless night and hormonal wave, my relationship with my partner felt the strain—as I'm sure many of you can relate. I'm peeling back the layers of this often unspoken reality, sharing stories and insights that recognize the profound impact of postpartum changes on both personal and relationship health. Understanding these trials is integral, and I'm here to offer that empathetic ear.
Through candid conversations about the critical importance of recognizing the changes your body is going through combined with sleep deprivation, I'm spotlighting the necessity for new moms to put their well-being on the priority list. Adjusting expectations and embracing new priorities isn’t just suggested, it’s essential for your health and that of your family. Here’s to finding solace, strength, and support as we navigate the beautiful, messy journey of parenthood together.
In this episode, Jenny addresses the challenges faced by new moms and the importance of discussing these issues. She highlights the physical changes that occur after having a baby, including hormonal shifts and the potential for postpartum depression. Jenny also emphasizes the impact of sleep deprivation and the need for self-care. She discusses the strain that having a child can put on a marriage and the importance of communication and understanding. Jenny encourages women to give themselves and their partners grace during this challenging time and offers resources for support.
Takeaways
· New moms face a range of challenges, including physical changes, hormonal shifts, and sleep deprivation.
· Postpartum depression is a common experience for many women and should be addressed with medical support.
· Marriage problems after having a child are normal and require open communication and understanding.
· Self-care is crucial for new moms, including seeking medical support and taking time for oneself.
· Partners should be given space and grace during this time of transition, and communication is key.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:59 The Challenges of Being a New Mom
04:22 Hormonal Shifts and Postpartum Depression
06:19 Marriage Problems After Having a Child
08:40 Sleep Deprivation and Self-Care
11:36 Getting to Know Each Other Again
23:31 Men's Hormonal Shifts and Fear of Aging
26:28 Giving Each Other Space and Grace
29:21 Acknowledging the Difficulty and Seeking Support
Hello everyone, good morning, welcome to another episode of Steel Rose's podcast. This podcast was created for women, by women, to elevate women's voices. Good morning, I am doing a bit of a pivot this weekend as I sip my coffee while I'm trying to wake up. My oldest birthday is right over until weekend, and so we've been just honoring and celebrating and so that is why I'm doing a recording early in the morning. Nevertheless, I wanted to readdress something that the podcast touched on really really early on in our life cycle.
Jenny Benitez:
The beginnings of Steel Rose's podcast was really more focused around being a mother and the challenges of that and what that brings. I just wanted to level set and kind of bring things back around, because I've been hearing from a lot of women about the tremendous amount of struggles that they're facing as new moms. I just wanted to just readdress this topic because it is something that really is not discussed a lot. People don't want to talk about problems in their marriage right after they have a baby because, I mean, lord knows the shame that that carries and the embarrassment and all that. But the important thing that I want to highlight here is that I don't think everyone realizes that everyone goes through these problems. And, again, this is one of those things where nobody wants to talk about it because there's shame with that, because it makes you look bad, and nobody wants to be bad if they have a big baby. You want to have this great family persona, but there is stuff that comes up, so I'm going to link a couple episodes in the description. There's two episodes that were aired in April 2023 and then another one in June 2023 where we do talk about this in more detail, but I want to give kind of like broad strokes here because, again, I think this is sorely needed and we don't do this enough.
Jenny Benitez:
So, number one, if you yourself are a new mom and you are having problems with your husband, I'm here to tell you that this is pretty much on par with every single other human being having a child. The reason that that is is because, once you have your baby and I think that this might also happen like across the board I obviously, like I carried my kids, so I can only speak from a caring your kids point of view, but I know that many women who use surrogates and who adopt face same challenges. So I think that it's something that triggers in the woman's mind once you have a child, but I'm going to speak specifically to once when you're carrying your child. So when you have a baby and you've carried your child for nine months, it's a four plus for some of you really strong, tough mamas. Once the baby's out, your body goes through a massive amount of changes massive. Now, I will tell you upfront, I had zero idea about any of that, because when you get pregnant and I will, I would bet, I would bet on this when you get pregnant, the first things you start to look up are what are you going to do with this baby? How are you going to keep this baby healthy inside of you? And the whole duration of your pregnancy is focused around I need to make sure my baby's okay. And then I'm treating myself nutritionally, and you know, and that inside my baby is good, which is wonderful. You know we pay attention here, but like the part that nope, I don't think anybody really researches I sure as hell didn't was after the baby comes, what's gonna happen to my body. I paid no mind to this and this is something that I think is like, again, sorely lacking in education for women what happens after you have your baby. Well, let me tell you and I just want to give you broad strokes because there's a massive amount of changes that are happening physically in the woman's body. Your hormones are gonna bottom out, basically because to date you've had a little person carried inside of you and now that person has come out and he or she is in the world and now your body is going to go through a period of readjusting itself back to not having to carry and preserve a life. Your hormones are going to basically bottom out, like that's a given. You're going to have a massive hormonal shift. Now hormones are incredibly important and I cannot say this enough your hormones, especially after you have a kid. It affects your personality, your moods, it affects how you're eating, it affects weight, it affects like a plethora of biological functions that you really wouldn't expect. So paying attention to that hormone shift after you have a baby is really important.
Jenny Benitez:
This is, I think, a lot to do with women who go through postpartum depression after they have their child. Nobody's paying attention to the fact that this woman needs support physically herself, not just like, oh, take a nap, you need to see and speak to a doctor and say this is what I'm going through. Again, I didn't even talk about this. After I had my twins, I had postpartum depression and it wasn't heavy. Now we've had an episode on that as well. I'll link that below too, because I really, really want everyone to hear me when I say, like so many women go through this. I don't know one couple that has had a child that did not go through problems in their marriage after they had a child. Everybody does it. Everybody goes through it. So it's really important.
Jenny Benitez:
The reason why I keep saying it and I keep repeating myself is because I want you to hear me. This is normal. This happens. To the degree and to the severity is unique to each person, but it does happen. So hormones, number one start researching it. If you're feeling it Now, you might be listening to this and be like oh well, my child's one, I still. You know we're still having, I'm having marriage problems still. Okay, hold on one second, let me just let me visit that in a minute.
Jenny Benitez:
Beyond the fact that your hormones are going to bottom out after you have a baby, let's layer in sleep deprivation, because I will speak for myself here. I think well, my son, after he was born, I was probably clocking about four or five hours a night, which, for me, was actually I was okay with that, like I could handle it. After the twins were born. It was roughly two hours spread out throughout the whole night and I'm talking like 15 minute clips of me getting to sleep, like it was really bad that that time for me was the most difficult time. The ages from one to roughly five was the most difficult time in my life. It was a beautiful moment that I had these beautiful kids and they were healthy and I was able to to care for them and everything. But it was the most difficult time as as a person because it was so much. And again, we don't talk about this and I really need everyone to hear me here.
Jenny Benitez:
If you are going through this right now, it is normal. Find somebody you can confide in that you can talk to about this. It is normal. If you are talking to someone about you know, issues or struggles or stress that you're having after you have a child and they're they're fueling the fire instead of helping to lessen the load. That's not the person you want to talk to, because it's going to make you feel worse. Find somebody you can confide in that is not going to be judgmental. That is going to just hear you, because we all go through this. So hormones, sleep deprivation, massive, massive shifts to you.
Jenny Benitez:
The sleep deprivation I want to highlight as well. The longer you're sleep deprived, the more years you take off your life. And in this moment, as I say this, I'm sure there's some moms that are like, okay, yeah, but what am I supposed to do? My kids get up like I'm sleep deprived. What am I supposed to do? I'm going to be honest with you. I had the same reaction. The doctor told me I think my kids were about. The first time I actually got myself to the doctor for me, after the twins were born was three years later. Like, let's all let that sink in. I did not visit a doctor for myself to make sure I was okay until three years after my kids were born or after the twins were born. So my son was four, the twins were three.
Jenny Benitez:
It took me that long to prioritize my own health. I'm highlighting that because, again, we don't prioritize ourselves and we just give, give, give. But in doing that we're doing into service to everybody, because if you go down, who's going to do everything, if so many people are depending on you and you go down and you're not caring for yourself and I'm not talking about getting a manicure, I'm talking about actual care for yourself then your body is not going to make it. You have to do, you have to do this. So when I say self care in this episode, I don't mean taking a nap, I don't mean meditating. I mean that you need to get yourself to a doctor, whether it's a holistic doctor, whether it's an actual medical doctor, like whatever route or path you think is best for you. Do it, but make sure you're prioritizing yourself.
Jenny Benitez:
So, circling back to the sleep deprivation, the doctor had asked me we were talking through my history and I was telling her all these issues I was having and I noted that I was sleeping roughly two hours a night and she just said to me oh, you know, you're taking years off your life. You can't do that. And I can't even express to you the amount of frustration I felt when she said that, because I was like that's nice, who's gonna get up with my kids? Like who's getting up? My husband did his best he would get up too. Like I'm not gonna knock him, like he definitely got up when he could. But it predominantly falls to me, and I think it predominantly falls to the mom in a lot of instances. That's normal too. Guys Like I mean, don't let anyone tell you that behind the scenes in their household that things are a perfect 50s 50 split and there's no fights and it's all. You know rainbows and sunshine. Somebody's telling you that that. I'm gonna be honest with you. I feel I'm gonna call it and I'm gonna say I feel like that's a load of crap.
Jenny Benitez:
Don't let yourself feel bad and compare yourself to other people. You only know your own situation. You cannot, you cannot compare yourself to other relationships, because everybody's situation is unique to their own. So please, please, please, do not compare yourself to anyone else. So we have hormones that's a problem. We have sleep deprivation that's a problem. These are two things we can't avoid as new moms, right, can't avoid these things. They're gonna happen. Be prepared for it. If you're going through it right now, take a bead here. Let's get yourself to a medical doctor, get some blood work, get a workup. Make sure that you are okay, because if the mama ship goes down, the rest of the family ship sinks. Please take care of yourselves.
Jenny Benitez:
Now the other leg to this while you're going through, while you're going through everything you're going through. You're gonna look over to your husband or your partner and you're gonna I'm laughing because I don't really talk about this as much, I mostly focus on what's gonna happen to the woman but you're gonna look over at your partner and you're gonna wonder how is it that they, how is it that they are unaffected and unfazed? How is it that it seems like you're drowning and you feel like you're drowning and they seem like they're totally fine? And part of this is because again, I'm gonna circle back when you do give birth to a child, your brain goes through an actual physical change. So I used to say after when I was pregnant with my son, I used to sell people professionally I used to say this I actually I think I said it to everybody wait until, wait until he's born, and then your regular Jenny will be back. And I always refer to regular Jenny. Regular Jenny will be back soon, as soon as his baby is born. And I gave birth to my son VSE section and I realized and took me a minute regular Jenny, as I knew her, was no more. And I and it it it honestly, even saying it now that you can tell I'm trying to find my words. Saying it now actually does bring up emotions because I think back to.
Jenny Benitez:
You know the type of person I was before I had my son, and even down to how I treated colleagues changed after I had my son, which is interesting because you know colleagues like, what does that have to do with me giving birth? But the the makeup of your brain changes after you give birth and this is like a survival thing. This is something that naturally is gonna happen. It doesn't. Obviously it doesn't happen to men because they don't go through the same physical labor that we go through and with this change, your priorities and your senses. Everything else changes and you can look this up because there was actually there was actual studies done to to just quantify this and to see like, oh, there's an actual change in your brain. So we have sleep deprivation, we have hormone fallout and then we have this actual physical change that happens to our brain. You are going to immediately start thinking of the baby as the priority, your child as the priority. The world changes around you and things before that you really didn't pay attention to or things that you, you know kind of dealt with but you know wasn't a priority, it totally changes.
Jenny Benitez:
I will say one silly one here. I became hypersensitive and I think most moms do. I became hypersensitive to how clean my floor was and at the time we were living in an apartment and all of a sudden I had never really paid mind to it. Like you know, I cleaned, but I wasn't great at cleaning. I'll be honest with you, like I really wasn't good at it. It's a little embarrassing, but I wasn't good at it. And after I had kids, all of a sudden I found myself like mopping the floors at like 10 o'clock at night after everyone was in bed, like I felt the need to constantly sanitize everything because all of a sudden you have this little tiny thing whose life depends on you and they don't know what they're doing. They're gonna lick the floor and they're gonna chew on the couch, like it's great. It's great. What's wild? So your brain? That's a silly example, but like I'll use another one that's a little bit more deeper.
Jenny Benitez:
I used to be able to sense my children if they were awake or if they were sick or something was wrong. Like I used to be able to, and I still can. I would wake up and I would. This is gonna sound really wild. I would sniff the air and I would be able to tell if somebody had a fever. You can just I just knew. And I would wake up and my husband would be like what are you doing? I'm like, oh, I gotta get the dial off. Someone's sick. And he was like, how do you know that? Like, what are you talking about? And then, within like three seconds, somebody would be crying. Like I would just be able to tell and, by the way, I just mentioned and I actually want to just make sure I address this quickly I mentioned like that I gave my kids Tylenol growing up. I would advise against that for everybody else. Just look it up. There's a link to Tylenol and ADHD and all my kids have issues with that. So I just wanted to say that quickly because I didn't want to promote something and not realize I was promoting it.
Jenny Benitez:
So, in any case, so we have your brain changing and then we have hormone fallout, sleep deprivation, alright. So these three major things that are going on in you right now, so you as a person are changing the you that you knew before you had your child. She's not here anymore and I mean that it's sad a little bit, and I actually had a moment where I, like, had to mourn my previous persona because you know, and she was something, she was a force to be reckoned with, but the person that I became after a mother being a mother was, I mean, leaps and bounds ahead of who I was, but that was just me personally. I'm not saying that you have to have a child to grow Like. Everyone has their own path. So, in any case, you are a new person. Now. Your whole persona is changed, everything about you is going to change and you have to just get comfortable with this and acknowledge and thank you, know the woman that you were, but know that you're going to grow into a different person. Now, this is what's happening in the moment. So all of these things combined.
Jenny Benitez:
Oh then, on top of it, if your child is having any health issues, if your child is not breastfeeding properly and you're stressed about that, if your child, like my daughter had at five weeks, I identified that she needed to have surgery and she had to have major surgery at five weeks old, like I mean, you go through it when you have a child. So anyone who's listening to this that has kids, like, bless you, good on you like. I'm sure you're probably doing much more better than you think you are, and anyone who has an infant right now, please bless you, because I mean, I can't even say enough about the amount of work that I'm sure that you're putting into being a new mom and I just have such a high regard because I've been there. So that's the mom stuff. So you're going through this massive change and then, as I started to touch on, I'm going to look over at your partner and I think in some way there will be resentment. I'm going through all this. I'm going through all this.
Jenny Benitez:
You seem to be fine, and then there's also gonna be getting to know each other again after baby because, as I noted the person that you were before you gave birth there are elements of her that will still exist, but for the most part, you are a new person now. You are totally new person now and your partner now has. You guys have to get to know each other again, take time to honor that and take time to and I'm not putting this on your shoulders, but I want you to be aware your partner now has to understand a new person here, so they're not gonna understand when you're like freaking out about something. Don't take that out on them, though, and I'm not again, I'm not putting the accountability on you, but this is where communication is key, and you are really gonna have to step it up with saying to your partner like I'm feeling off or this is something I'm going through, and try to help them understand you, because don't assume they're gonna understand. They're not gonna understand. You're going through this massive, massive thing. They don't feel any of this. They might see it and be like why is she acting like this? It's not a big deal, but to you it is a big deal. So this is the area where I'm gonna say communication is a huge, huge deal.
Jenny Benitez:
Now, the other part of this and I can only speak for husbands, really, but the other part in this is that you might also I mentioned resentment You'll have this feeling of like your life is carrying on as is, and mine has changed drastically Like how is that possible? Now, I've heard that actually quite a bit. I've also heard and experienced husbands that will revert back to like poor habits drinking, going out with buddies and you might see like a shift, what feels like a shift to you in your partner, and again, this is where you'd be like what is wrong with you? We have this child to care for, like this is the most important thing in our lives right now. I think for men there is a shift that happens as well after a child comes into the picture and we have to acknowledge that.
Jenny Benitez:
If you wanna stay married, you need to also acknowledge the fact that your husband is not going through what you're going through, but he is gonna be going through something. Now some husbands are all in it, like maybe not everybody goes through, but there is something that happens. So they will kind of quote unquote, like I would say, act out in a certain specific way, like I said, drinking, going out with buddies, and I think it's important, while you're also trying to become a mother and trying to learn how to be a mom and learn your new self, to also acknowledge the fact that your husband is gonna be going through something too and they might be struggling with being a dad. Regardless of, like, your situation. Bringing a child into your home is scary and for men, they have this need to protect, need to provide, but then men also have this need to not feel like they're strapped down and the more that you might try to control the person that you're with, the more you're going to feel that pressure of let me be free. And now some of you are listening to this, probably, and either like cursing me out or like telling, basically mumbling under your breath, like well, they need to get on board, like there's a child here. Now grow up. Yeah, I listen, ladies, I hear you. I hear you deep into the core of my soul.
Jenny Benitez:
But if you wanna stay married and you wanna get through this period of time and survive it, I'm just saying communication is gonna be a big deal, but you're also gonna have to give your husband some grace and some understanding that he is also experiencing a shift here. Now, it also depends on the age. If you happen to have young children around the time that your husband is hitting his 40s, don't forget, men go through a hormonal shift in their 40s and that changes them and their personalities and their personas and it freaks them out and they start to have these moments of. I don't know if it's fear over getting older and feeling like they're losing their virility. I don't know if it's just fear Like. I know it's fear like, but fear of what I can't quite pinpoint because everybody's different, but there is something there for men.
Jenny Benitez:
So it is crucial to, while you're, I know, juggling your own stuff, just have some grace for each other, because maybe he needs to go out every Friday night, maybe that's his thing. Let him go out every Friday night, maybe, have someone come, maybe have your mom come or a girlfriend come over and you guys kinda hang out and do a movie night or whatever, watch the baby, or vice versa. You know like there's stuff you can do to try to make it feel like it's not so heavy on the other person, and that I am gonna say it again, that you have some grace for each other. Now, I know that in some instances it might feel like, oh, you know, I don't know this person anymore, or it might feel like I, you know, we went through all this and you know we're having a baby and he seems to have totally legs on the coop. Let's give him some space and some grace, because you guys chose to get married, or maybe not, maybe you're just together, which I mean listen, that was me. You guys spent time together enough and long enough that a child was produced and if you're married, you actually chose to get married to this person.
Jenny Benitez:
If you went through fertility issues and Still went down this journey of wanting to have a child, well, you, you chose to have a child together. So there is something there at the core, and this is where that for better or worse part comes, and it's time to really take a minute to try to understand each other again, reintroduce yourselves to each other, Take a minute. Don't take things so seriously. You know if he needs some space and and even you if you need a minute, and I do think you should take time, because I never did and it really Destroyed me for like four years. I Strongly encourage you to lean on people for support. Ask someone to watch the baby before you so you can go to the doctor, you know. Ask someone to babysit for an hour so you can go and do something that you used to love and explore something.
Jenny Benitez:
No, it was difficult for me ever had my son like I would go grocery shopping and I would miss him. I was like I'm not particularly with him, but I never took time at all for myself for the first four years of my kids lives like at all and Everything was centered around them. I didn't take care of my health. I didn't take care of me as a person. I just kept my head down and just kept moving forward. That was the only way that I knew how to survive was just a plow ahead. I Don't recommend this, but it was my survival technique. This is what I did.
Jenny Benitez:
I Do think that people need to have more grace with themselves and I do really really encourage you. If you're going through, you know, toddler years, infant years, I mean, you are literally in the most difficult part of having kids. It's in those years, and it's because of all the combination of things that I just talked about, is why it feels like it's so difficult. So just have some grace for yourself. Have some grace for your husband, your partner, because You're there for a reason. You built this, you started building this life for a reason. So this is the time to just reinforce to yourselves. You know what we're in this together. What do you need to get through this? What is it that you need from me? And then, vice versa, what is it that you need from your husband? Have the conversation, make sure that you're paying attention to each other in a sense of like, respect, and communicating to each other.
Jenny Benitez:
Um, now, if you find yourself in a dangerous situation with your partner, if your partner is Acting violently and you're scared for your safety, that's a whole other issue and that's something I mean. There are support for those situations. That that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about the times when it's more of a I'm Pissed off that my husband still wants to or my partner still wants to go out with their friends and and I'm sitting here with a baby Like. There's the times where you give yourself some grace, give your husband some grace, let him be, because I can guarantee you he's gonna come back and feel a little bit better and he's gonna feel a little bit more like himself, which is important.
Jenny Benitez:
So I just wanted to acknowledge how Difficult if you are going through it at this point, how difficult it actually is, because it is difficult. Everyone told me when my kids were little like oh, once they hit five or six, like you're gonna start to see a shift and it's gonna feel better. And I remember like this my kids were infants when I was told that information and I was like awesome, I'm gonna have to survive this for five years. I'll never make it. I did make it and now I can podcast, which is cool, because I was never able again to do anything for myself before.
Jenny Benitez:
So just have some grace for yourself if you're feeling like you need support. I'm gonna add some links to other episodes, but I just strongly suggest, like I mean there's so many avenues where you can get help, and I mean there's even like telehealth Therapy, therapy appointments if you can, if you have insurance, or even if you don't like I don't know how it works If it's a cash pay situation, but there are things you can do from home that will support you. If you need some to talk to, you can always. If you don't have, like a friend or a family member that you can confide in, there are Organizations that will support you and you can definitely do a quick Google and find Um places where you can. You know, look for information and look for support and, you know, lean on other women. Um, you know I can't be a support for everybody live, but I just want you to know that I've been there, I've been through it and you will get through this.
Jenny Benitez:
You will get through this and, while it might feel like you're drowning and it might feel really uncomfortable, this is a period of growth for you. It's a period of growth for your partner. At the other end of this, you are gonna come out stronger. And the other part of this, too, that I think is important to note too, is every time you have a child, this will happen again. It's gonna happen each time, because every time you have a child, part of you changes a little bit more. So it's just there. It's something that Nobody talks about. When they talk about like, oh, have a baby, nobody talks about like this particular part, but it is very difficult.
Jenny Benitez:
So just have some grace for yourself during this time. Have some grace for your partner. You're both going through a tremendous amount of change right now and it's important to just support each other and honor each other. And if that means that you know he lets you sleep in on the weekends and you get a couple extra hours of sleep in the morning, I was so happy when that started happening in our house I can't even tell you. Maybe that's what it is for you. Maybe he lets you sleep in and he gets up with the baby in the morning. Then you can recharge a little bit. Maybe it's him going out with his friends. That's okay, ladies, it's okay. It's okay.
Jenny Benitez:
I don't know where it came from that all of a sudden, everyone's like well, no, you need to be here with me every-. No, let your husband go out. Let him, let him have fun. Like. You need to unwind, too. Like, have these moments of like. Let's give each other some space here. Give each other some grace. We don't have to really be on each other like that Like. You don't need to be acting like that. I think there's like a whole movement of women that are probably like rolling their eyes hard at me. But you don't need to do that. You don't have to be so ridiculous Like. You can just let ridiculous in the sense of like. You don't have to be so ridiculous with like trying to control every component. Give him space too. Like, give yourself some space. If he wants to go out, why don't you have somebody babysit for you? Ask your parents, ask a trust person and get out of the house and maybe you don't have a babysitter. Maybe you take the baby with you and you just get out of the house for a little bit and go to a bookstore, go shopping, like, whatever. Like you can do this and you can find a way for yourself and for your partner to get through this together.
Jenny Benitez:
So I'm gonna link the other episodes in the description that are linked into this topic, because they're lengthier. They actually feature myself and my cousin, so you'll get two different perspectives, which I think is important. And just hang in there, because you're gonna get through it. Feel free to message me anytime you want. I am here for it and I'm happy to, you know, provide some support if needed, because really, at the end of the day, that's what I want women to understand is we're here to support each other and there is no shame in any of this.
Jenny Benitez:
We all went. We're all going through it. The reality of it is we're all going through it. So I hope that this episode helped a little bit. I hope that you know you're taking away from this, that you can take a breath here and just you'll be okay. I got through what I got through my situation and I think you'll be able to get through this too. So just take a minute and take a breath. You are gonna be okay. If you found this episode insightful, I greatly appreciate you guys. Leaving reviews in whatever platform you're listening to, the podcast in Every review is actually gonna help. You know, bring the podcast to other people's feeds. It actually bumps us up in the algorithm. So I greatly appreciate that because I would love to reach as many women as I can with this. These topics Outside of reviews I do have, and I've talked about it in a couple episodes, but in April April is our one-year anniversary of the podcast, so we have a couple exciting things happening.
Jenny Benitez:
In April. A new resources page is being added to the website, wwwsteelroseswomencom. So in April you're gonna see what new page added launch. It's gonna be really awesome. It's gonna feature resources for women to access other female entrepreneurs. We have coaches. I have a woman who supports women in alcoholism. A few other organizations are gonna be featured on the website itself as resources to you guys. So that's gonna be forthcoming.
Jenny Benitez:
And then we also have, in the event that anyone listening or you know anyone who'd be interested on a how to podcast guide that I produced over the past couple of months, that's gonna be released as well Very, very great information, if I do say so myself. So that's gonna be forthcoming as well. So April's gonna be really exciting for us because we have these couple of launches, and so that'll be forthcoming. Thank you so much for listening and being on this journey with me. I greatly appreciate all of you and honestly I hope that even if just one woman heard this episode, or you shared this episode with one woman, that it helps them and it brings them some peace, because that's really why I'm here. So, take care everyone. I hope you all have an awesome day and I'll see you next time.