Find Your Center and Find Your Excellence

Ever feel your mornings run you instead of the other way around? We’ve been there—work piling up, kids home, routines slipping—until the day we chose a gentler restart. Today we share a candid update on parenting getting easier as kids grow more independent and how that small shift opened the door to rebuilding our inner calm with a practical morning ritual you can actually keep.

We walk through The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod—found through the always-inspiring Kathy Heller—and break down the SAVERS method: Silence, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, Reading, and Scribing. No perfection required. We show you how to scale it to five-minute blocks, how to shrink the routine on hard days without breaking it, and why momentum matters more than motivation. You’ll hear how simple practices like a minute of breathing, a single empowering statement, or one page of reading can steady your focus, mood, and confidence.

Along the way, we talk about the people who shape our ceilings—why you truly are the average of your closest five—and how to audit your inputs across friends, feeds, and self-talk. We take aim at self-fulfilling prophecies, fear, and imposter syndrome with practical language shifts and tiny actions that restore agency. If you’ve been waiting for a clean slate or a New Year to start fresh, consider this your nudge: ritual beats resolution, and the best day to begin is the next morning you wake up.

Press play, pick one micro-step, and start tomorrow. If this spoke to you, subscribe, share with a friend who loves a good reset, and leave a quick review to help more women find their voice and their morning.

Chapters

• 0:02 Welcome And Life Update
• 0:30 Parenting Gets Easier With Time
• 1:55 Falling Off The Meditation Wagon
• 2:41 Discovering The Miracle Morning
• 3:39 SAVERS Explained Simply
• 6:50 Doable Routines In Minutes
• 7:42 Quotes That Reframe Your Circle
• 9:21 Self Talk, Fear, And Imposter Syndrome
• 11:35 Why Start Now, Not New Year
• 12:11 Closing And Thanks

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:02

Hello everyone, this is Still Roses Podcast. This podcast is created for women by women to elevate women's voices. I hope everyone is doing very, very well this week so far. Um I do realize that it's just Monday end of day, but I also realized that my kids don't have school tomorrow. So after a whole week home, they're all home again tomorrow. Um, nevertheless, we march on. I did want to provide an update because I did mention it in one of the recordings last week that um that they were gonna be home and I was nervous about it, and it's very interesting because when they were younger it was much more intense and it was much more frightening when they were home and I had to work because they obviously needed so much more attention. But now um they're more self-sufficient, it has gotten easier, thank goodness. They understand and respect and and you know, get that mommy has to work, and you know, it it just wasn't bad. And I actually thoroughly enjoyed having them home, which I again like if you had heard me like years ago, you wouldn't have heard that coming out of my mouth. So it's just it's it's such a pleasant thing, and you know, it's funny, well, ironic really, because when they were really little, people would tell me all the time oh, just give it time, you know, give it till when they're like eight years old, seven, eight, it starts to get easier. And they were little, they were like one or two at the time when people were telling me that, and I remember just wanting to punch people in the face when they would say that. Because I'm like, that's nice, that's in six years. How is that helping me now? But again, survived it, made it through to the other side, and now I can actually also be one of those annoying people that says gets easier when they get older. I annoy my stepdaughter with that comment. Um, I wanted to revisit something with you guys that I have talked about before. So um, I I've talked about meditation before affirmations, I've talked about how key and crucial this is to really my well-being and development and my family and everything in our house. Like this is key. This is the big success key here. Um one of the things that I do when I'm off track, which happens, I got off track with meditating um in May of this year. Um, I was very busy with work. I j I just lost everything. I really and I did, honestly, I did. I lost everything for a solid like six weeks, and then I couldn't get it back, and it just took me a long time to get back into the rhythm. So one of the things that I did most recently, because I'm only just getting back on track now, um, is I revisited the miracle morning. So this is a book by Hal Elrod. I heard about Hal, Hal's book, um, through Kathy Heller. So Kathy Heller is a podcaster, but she's also this really tremendous woman who gives guidance and insight and basically a second life to many, many people, not just women. Um, she hosts virtual seminars and summits. She does things live out in California and Florida. Actually, she does it in a couple locations. It's not just um West Coast, it's East Coast too. And, you know, she Kathy Heller was one of these people that she changed my whole life. And I'll I'll talk more in detail about that on another episode. But this one, um, so I found out about Hal through Kathy because she she interviewed him on her podcast. Um, so his book is called The Miracle Morning, and in the book, he talks about he'd gone through these really horrible downturns in his life. He um was in he was at the high, you know, he had just started a career in sales and he was at like, you know, peaking really. He was doing really, really well in his early 20s. Gets in this horrendous car accident. He's making more money than he could ever think of in his life. Then he ends up getting into this, he was out giving a speech at a conference, basically high on life, driving home, like just thrilled that he was just at this big thing making an impression of people, and he ends up in a head-on collision with a vehicle, loses the ability to walk, and he's told he most likely will not be able to walk again unassisted. He beats this. Then he has another one where it was the 2008 recession, loses everything. Like, so he talks about this very briefly, by the way. He doesn't really go like deep and hard onto those because that those were like the catalyst moments. So I don't know if you guys have heard this before, but the human being, the human beings that we are in the human race, we only reach our greatest points when we are on the precipice of something really big changing and and disrupting, and something that's like so abrasive that we're forced to make a definitive decision. We cannot drag our feet. Being a mother, for example, once you have a child, that's it, you never go back. But all jokes aside, there are pivotal moments in your life that will push you into the next pivotal moment and pivotal, like you know, years of your life. This is what happened to him. So through his story, he eventually um develops this thing called the miracle morning. And the what what it is is they use this method called savers, and savors stands for let me see if I can remember it: silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, and scribing. Sounds like a lot, but it's not. So the way the book is structured, you can you're supposed to be doing miracle warning. You're supposed to get up earlier in the day and go through the routine of silence being meditation, affirmations, visualiz visualizing, and so on and so forth. Exercise, reading, scribing, scribing is journaling. Now, you might hear that like, well, I can't do that. That sounds crazy. That's what they say in the book, too. Guess what? Lots of people feel that way. But if you look it up, a lot of people employ this method, and the way Hal describes is you can do it for 20 minutes per thing, you can do it for five minutes per thing, as long as you do it, as long as you take a minute to elevate yourself every single day. Doesn't matter if it was only five minutes, it doesn't matter if it was like an hour. I mean, clearly an hour is better, but you get my gist, right? So there's some quotes in this book that I wanted to highlight for you today, which were like really interesting, and I highlighted them the first time I went around, and now this is my third or fourth time going around this book. Um, so I'm using it to really reinvigorate myself and get myself back on track. Um, one of the quotes, let's see here, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I think that's a common one, right? Um, that one's Jim Ron said that. And it makes sense if you look at your social circle and you look at the people around you, if you're incredibly unhappy with who you are as a person, or if you're incredibly unhappy with your life, if you look around at the people that you've been socializing with or that you're surrounding yourself with, not even socializing, but well, socializing too, but if you look at the people that you spend the most time with, are they successful people? Are they on the right path? Are they encouraging you to do the right thing? Are these people really having a good influence or a bad influence? Are they bringing you down into their pits and dips and lows, or are they helping to elevate you because they're also on a positive path forward? These are the things that you know I've talked with my kids about too, that like you have to select friends that are really showing up for you. Because if you're really showing up for people, you want them to reciprocate that. But on a higher elevated note, you also want people that are on the same wavelength as you. If you are with a bunch of people that are being lazy and just, you know, no offense to anybody out there. But if you're with a bunch of people that are lazy, eat poorly, don't work out, drink all the time, you know, like really aren't goal-oriented, like, chances are that's gonna rub off on you because everything around you seems like, oh, this is fine. They're all right. Are they though? You're gonna feel it eventually. So, really, it's one of those things like take a look at who you're with. This other one I thought was good. Um, it is often said that misery loves company, but so does media mediocrity. Don't let the fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs of others limit what's possible for you. I'm pausing because I think that this is something that we all deal with. Now, if you think about it, um, I remember when I was very young, um, I had I was very interested in psychology, and so I had read something um about self-fulfilling prophecies. You basically are self-fulfilling a prophecy. Well, you'll say, like, well, I never I never do this. I never, I never, I never do better than this. I'm never gonna get, I'm never gonna achieve this. I'm never gonna buy a house. I'm never going to get a new car. I'm never gonna have a job that pays well enough. If you keep talking like that, no, you never will. There's always a way. Where there's a will, there's a way. That's so cheesy, but it's so flippin' true. Um fear and insecurity are things that I battle with on a regular basis, almost every single day. And I think I've said that to you guys too, where um I have to battle imposter syndrome every single day. I don't know why it happens, and every single day at night I have to talk myself down and tell me I'm okay and put myself to bed because I am okay. There's nothing bad. Like I'm doing really well, and I'm happy to be able to make a good impression on people. I'm happy to help the people on my team. So it's one of those things that's like if you really step back, you recognize what it is. You recognize that it's not real, you recognize that the feelings aren't real, and then you can get past them. I do this with fear, I do it with depression, I do it with anxiety. It takes a hell of a lot of brain power to step back and understand that what you're looking at is not real, and to say to yourself, like, you're okay, this is okay, we just gotta get through this moment. It is what it is. So strong recommend if you have the time to pick up the miracle morning. It's it's just one of those things. And honestly, Hal mentions a whole bunch of people in this book. There's a lot of things that he talks about that I've read in other books. There's a whole grouping of people out there that are really invigorating this movement, and it's gonna make all of us better. It is the biggest thing you can do to change your life. I know New Year's resolutions are on the horizon for a lot of people, even though I don't love them and I don't do them myself. Um, but if they're on your list and you think you want to do something really big, this is it. Guess what? You don't have to wait for New Year's for it. You can get it right now. Um, I hope you found this episode informative. I am a day late in a dollar short this week. Um, a little bit hectic, but I am gonna make sure I'm getting you some episodes. Uh, thank you for being with me today, and I will catch you on the next one. Take care. Hello everyone, this is Still Rose's Podcast. This podcast was created for women by women to elevate women's voices. I hope everyone is doing very, very well this week so far. I do realize that it's just Monday end of day, but I also realized that my kids don't have school tomorrow, so after a whole week home, they're all home again tomorrow. Nevertheless, we march on. I did want to provide an update because I did mention it in one of the recordings last week that that they were gonna be home and I was nervous about it, and it's very interesting because when they were younger it was much more intense and it was much more frightening when they were home and I had to work because they obviously needed so much more attention. But now they're more self-sufficient, it has gotten easier than goodness. They understand and respect and and you know get that mommy has to work, and you know, it it just wasn't bad. And I actually thoroughly enjoyed having them home. Which I again, like if you had heard me like years ago, you wouldn't have heard that coming out of my mouth. So it's just it's it's such a pleasant thing, and you know, it's funny, well, ironic really, because when they were really little, people would tell me all the time, Oh, just give it time, you know, give it till when they're like eight years old, seven, eight, it starts to get easier. And they were little, they were like one or two at the time when people were telling me that, and I remember just wanting to punch people in the face when they would say that. Because I'm like, that's nice, that's in six years. How is that helping me now? But again, survived it, made it through to the other side, and now I can actually also be one of those annoying people that says gets easier when they get older. I annoy my stepdaughter with that comment. I wanted to revisit something with you guys that I have talked about before. So I talked about meditation before affirmations, I've talked about how key and crucial this is to really my well-being and development, and my family, and everything in our house. Like, this is key. This is the big success key here. One of the things that I do when I'm off track, which happens, I got off track with meditating in May of this year. Um, I was very busy with work, I just lost everything. I really and I did, honestly, I did. I lost everything for a solid like six weeks, and then I couldn't get it back, and it just took me a long time to get back into the rhythm. So, one of the things that I did most recently, because I'm only just getting back on track now, is I revisited the miracle morning. So, this is a book by Hal Elrod. I heard about Hal, Hal's book, through Kathy Heller. So, Kathy Heller is a podcaster, but she's also this really tremendous woman who gives guidance and insight and basically a second life to many, many people, not just women. She hosts virtual seminars and summits. She does things live out in California and Florida. Actually, she does it on a couple occasions. It's not just um West Coast, it's East Coast too. And you know, she Kathy Heller was one of these people that she changed my whole life. And I'll I'll talk more in detail about that on another episode. But this one, um, so I found out about Hal through Kathy because she she interviewed him on her podcast. So his book is called The Miracle Morning, and in the book, he talks about he'd gone through these really horrible downturns in his life. He um was in he was at the high, you know, he had just started a career in sales and he was at like, you know, peaking really. He was doing really, really well in his early 20s. Gets in this horrendous car accident. He's making more money than he could ever think of in his life. Then he ends up getting into this, he was out giving a speech at a conference, basically high on life, driving home, like just thrilled that he was just at this big thing making an impression of people, and he ends up in a head-on collision with a vehicle, loses the ability to walk. And he's told he most likely will not be able to walk again unassisted. He beats this. Then he has another one where it was a 2008 recession, loses everything. Like, so he talks about this very briefly, by the way. He doesn't really go like deep and hard onto those because that those were like the catalyst moments. So I don't know if you guys have heard this before, but the human being, the human beings that we are in the ri human race, we only reach our greatest points when we are on the precipice of something really big changing and and disrupting, and something that's like so abrasive that we're forced to make a definitive decision. We cannot drag our feet. Being a mother, for example, once you have a child, that's it, you never go back. But all jokes aside, there are pivotal moments in your life that will push you into the next pivotal moment and pivotal, like you know, years of your life. This is what happened to him. So through his story, he eventually um develops this thing called the miracle morning. And the what what it is is they use this method called savors, and savors stands for let me see if I can remember it: silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, and scribing. Sounds like a lot, but it's not. So the way the book is structured, you can you're supposed to be doing miracle warning. You're supposed to get up earlier in the day and go through the routine of silence being meditation, affirmations, visualiz visualizing, and so on and so forth. Exercise, reading, scribing. Scribing is journaling. Now, you might hear that and be like, Well, I can't do that. That sounds crazy. That's what they say in the book, too. Guess what? Lots of people feel that way. But if you look it up, a lot of people employ this method. And the way Hal describes is you can do it for 20 minutes per thing, you can do it for five minutes per thing, as long as you do it, as long as you take a minute to elevate yourself every single day. Doesn't matter if it was only five minutes, it doesn't matter if it was like an hour. I mean, clearly an hour is better, but you get my gist, right? So there's some quotes in this book that I wanted to highlight for you today, which were like really interesting. And I highlighted them the first time I went around, and now this is my third or fourth time going around this book, so I'm using it to really reinvigorate myself and get myself back on track. One of the quotes, let's see here. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. I think that's a common one, right? Um, that one's Jim Ron said that. And it makes sense if you look at your social circle and you look at the people around you, if you're incredibly unhappy with who you are as a person or if you're incredibly unhappy with your life, if you look around at the people that you've been socializing with or that you're surrounding yourself with, not even socializing, but well, socializing too, but if you look at the people that you spend the most time with, are they successful people? Are they on the right path? Are they encouraging you to do the right thing? Are these people really having a good influence or a bad influence? Are they bringing you down into their pits and dips and lows, or are they helping to elevate you because they're also on a positive path forward? These are the things that, you know, I've talked with my kids about too, that like you have to select friends that are really showing up for you. Because if you're really showing up for people, you want them to reciprocate that. But on a higher elevated note, you also want people that are on the same wavelength as you. If you are with a bunch of people that are being lazy and just, you know, no offense to anybody out there. But if you're with a bunch of people that are lazy, eat poorly, don't work out, drink all the time, you know, like really aren't goal-oriented, like, chances are that's gonna rub off on you because everything around you seems like, oh, this is fine. They're alright. Are they though? You're gonna feel it eventually. So, really, it's one of those things like take a look at who you're with. This other one I thought was good. It is often said that misery loves company, but so does media mediocrity. Don't let the fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs of others limit what's possible for you. I'm pausing because I think that this is something that we all deal with. Now, if you think about it, um, I remember when I was very young, I was very interested in psychology, and so I had read something about self-fulfilling prophecies. You basically are self-fulfilling a prophecy. Well, you'll say, like, well, I never I never do this. I never, I never, I never do better than this. I'm never gonna get, I'm never gonna achieve this. I'm never gonna buy a house. I'm never going to get a new car. I'm never gonna have a job that pays well enough. If you keep talking like that, no, you never will. There's always a way. Where there's a will, there's a way. That's so cheesy, but it's so flippin' true. Um, fear and insecurity are things that I battle with on a regular basis, almost every single day. And I think I've said that to you guys too, where um I have to battle imposter syndrome every single day. I don't know why it happens, but it does happen. And every single day at night I have to talk myself down and tell me I'm okay and put myself to bed because I am okay. There's nothing bad. Like I'm doing really well, and I'm happy to be able to make a good impression on people. I'm happy to help the people on my team. So it's one of those things that's like if you really step back, you recognize what it is. You recognize that it's not real, you recognize that the feelings aren't real, and then you can get past them. I do this with fear, I do it with depression, I do it with anxiety. It takes a hell of a lot of brain power to step back and understand that what you're looking at is not real, and to say to yourself, like, you're okay, this is okay, we just gotta get through this moment. It is what it is. So, strong recommend if you have the time to pick up the miracle morning. It's it's just one of those things. And honestly, Hal mentions a whole bunch of people in this book. There's a lot of things that he talks about that I've read in other books. There's a whole grouping of people out there that are really invigorating this movement, and it's gonna make all of us better. It is the biggest thing you can do to change your life. I know New Year's resolutions are on the horizon for a lot of people, even though I don't love them and I don't do them myself. But if they're on your list and you think you want to do something really big, this is it. Guess what? You don't have to wait for New Year's for it. You can get it right now. Um, I hope you found this episode informative. I am a day late in a dollar short this week, a little bit hectic, but I am gonna make sure I'm getting you some episodes. Uh, thank you for being with me today, and I will catch you on the next one. Take care.