Listening To Your Inner Thermometer

Your body knows when your life drifts off course—tight chest, restless mind, that ache in your throat you can’t name. We treat those feelings like data and show how to turn them into a compass for alignment, purpose, and practical next steps. I share the night I asked “Is this it?” at twenty-six and how that question sparked a ruthless life audit: rethinking friendships, habits, and what “success” should feel like from the inside. This isn’t about perfect morning routines or instant reinvention; it’s about small, honest moves that add up.

We get real about community and energy. Friends either fuel your future or anchor you to the past, so we talk through choosing quality over quantity and why pruning your circle is not cruelty—it’s care. From there, we dig into adult development in a world that confuses scrolling with growth. I walk through starter tools like The Secret as a gateway to intention, then layer deeper practices: reading with purpose, tracking attention, and building skills by shipping messy first versions.

Regret is the villain in this story, and we face it with a simple practice: follow the nudge. I break down how I test ideas—writing the mini business plan, exploring fully enough to reach a confident no or a grounded yes. We also talk sustainable growth without chasing viral chaos: tightening guest choices, protecting craft, and letting encouragement from real listeners guide the pace. If you’re feeling anxiety, sadness, or that low hum of “off,” consider this your sign to check your inner thermometer, take one brave step, and iterate. If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend who’s leveling up, and leave a quick review to help more women find their alignment.

Chapters

• 0:00 Setting Intentions For Alignment
• 1:45 Reading Emotional Symptoms
• 3:20 Noticing Spiritual Unwellness
• 5:05 Life Audit At Twenty-Six
• 7:20 Friends, Energy, And Standards
• 9:40 Acting Like The Future You
• 11:30 Development Beyond Social Media

Transcript

Setting Intentions For Alignment

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Hello, everybody. This is Stilver Rose's Podcast. This podcast was created for women by women to elevate women's voices. I hope everyone is doing really well and taking deep breaths and mindful moments. As you know, that's part of my goal here 2026. I am refreshing and resetting and making sure I maintain my alignment with the universe and the powers that be. On that note, something that really is a driving force for me and a driving factor beyond being in alignment is also really recognizing my purpose and fulfilling my purpose. What I do quite a bit is, you guys know, I gut check myself. So as I'm going through the motions of life, as I'm living my day-to-day life, I'm quite often checking in with myself. How are you feeling about things? Are you happy? Like, does something feel off? Usually I can sense when something is is off, when I don't feel quite like I'm in alignment. That's the only way I can say it. I don't know how else to explain it, but I do know that there's a definitive feeling always in my chest, always in my throat, that I can tell when I'm not living the life that I'm meant to be living. And it feels uncomfortable. It feels like anxiety. It feels like depression. It feels like you're questioning yourself. It feels like sadness. All these feelings that we will get throughout the day when we're living our lives, throughout our weeks and days and everything, that's your that's your barometer. That's your internal thermometer saying something's wrong here. Now, it's quite easy to know physically when something's wrong, right? You get a fever, you get sick, you feel sick. As you can tell, I'm still not all the way well from my illness and my throat's still bothering me a bit, but physically, it's easy to say there's something wrong here. I have a fever, these are my symptoms. Spiritually, emotionally, it's harder to tell, right? Because we can't really put our finger on it. The symptoms are varied. And if you're not listening and you're not paying attention, you're gonna completely miss the symptoms. And then you will not know that you're spiritually unwell, that your soul is unwell and not being fed. Um, and that's where the emotions come in with those temp checks. How am I feeling? Am I happy? When I put my head down on my pillow at night to go to sleep, it's my mind racing a million miles an hour. Am I thinking about everything in my day that I should have done that I didn't do? Am I stressed out about tomorrow? Am I stressed out about next week? These are all things that are symptomatic of a soul that is unsettled, a soul that is not feeling like they're in alignment with what they're meant to be doing. This is something I pay, I'm hyper aware of. My husband is hyper aware, but not he doesn't realize the same reason for it, but he he's very adept with understanding his emotions and his feelings. And when he feels off, he tells me. So it's important to be aware of that because if you're feeling that way, if you're feeling massive amounts of anxiety, if you're feeling depressed, then it is a symptom that something isn't right in your life. And so that's when you take that step back to say, well, what's not quite right? What am I not quite happy with? Is it my marriage? Is it my relationship? Is it my job? Is it me? Is it something that I've done to attract the wrong people into my life? Because that is a thing. Now, there was a point in my life at about 26. Yes, 26. It was the year that I turned 26. I did a massive clean out of my life and I just took a look at where things were year leading up to me turning 26. I distinctly remember I had a pivotal moment where I was leaving a like a nightclub or something, and I'm walking to my car by myself and I had left my friends inside, and I was just like, is this it? Like, is this it? Because I had already started my career. I was working a really good job. So that was settled. And I was like, is this really the life that I want? Like, I don't think this is what I want. And so I started to explore and turn to things to see if I could get into alignment with what I wanted. Now at the time I didn't know anything about alignment or meditation or anything like that. But I knew in that moment something needed to change. And then it did. And then a year later I met my husband. And, you know, as they say, the rest is history. But with going down memory lane, I want to point out that it is potential to have people in your life that are currently people that you're very close with. It could be people that you consider your best friends. Are they serving your soul? You know, are they in alignment with you? Are they positive people in your life that are bringing positive things to you? Or are these people that will fight you when you try to make positive changes? Now, sometimes I think to myself, Jenny, you really should have more friends. Like you should have more people in your life. There should be more to what you have socially. But then I remember I've cultivated quality over quantity. And I've expressed this to my kids too, because I want them to start realizing this now as eight and nine-year-olds. It is not about having a lot of friends. It is about having people around you that are on the same wavelength as you and looking to the same future. Because if you are unhappy with things in your life, if you start to really look at the people that you're surrounding yourself with, if they are not in alignment with doing better for themselves, if you are going out and partying all the time and drinking heavily and, you know, you're having fun, sure. I'm not gonna say you're not, but then you wake up in the morning and you're like, you feel like crap physically, mentally, you're drained, and you're unhappy. Perhaps you want to get married and have a family, perhaps you want to have a better career, perhaps you want to have, you know, a home instead of renting. There are things that like all tie together. These are all things that are tied together. If you're living a life, you know, that is unrestricted and you're living this life where you're not paying attention to any of the details and you're doing nothing to better yourself, you're not gonna get these things. You're not gonna level up. Now, I'm not saying you need to own a home and you need to have a family, you need to have a husband or have a wife or whatever. I'm not saying any of that because actually I know people now that are not married and a hundred percent happy. And I think back and, you know, the only path I was told was get married and have kids, which is fine. Like that worked for me, but that doesn't work for everybody. The point is that you might have a life of your dreams that you want, but you're not acting as if you're not getting yourself there. A huge part of that is development for yourself as an adult. You know, once we're done with school, what do you do for development? Social media is not development. That's a time suck. That's that's burning your brain. You're burning your brain. You're literally burning your brain and you're draining your soul with social media. Depend, you know, depending on what you're looking at, obviously. But like for the most part, you're you're just burning your brain out. For development, what do you do to educate yourself? Are you reading books still? Like, do people still read? I hope so. Like, you know, there's other things to be done. So it's important to consistently check in with yourself and make sure that you are happy with how things are going. And if you're not, like, well, what can you do to change? I recently recommended the book, um, The Secret, to somebody that I know that is interested in a life change. And I explained, this is where I started. This is the book that set me down the path. Now, there's a lot of conflicting views about the secret and how this, how the how being in alignment and, you know, manifesting is presented in that book because that was just like a tip of the iceberg, scratch the surface. It didn't actually put you down the path for stronger alignment, but it's a starting point. And for me, it was the easiest book to pick up because that was something that I knew, like this is a book that like I understood easily, the easily digestible to me, and it got me going on the right path. And then I explored more and I went deeper and it got me on a better path. So you kind of just like build on it. A quote that I recently saw that spurred this topic for all of you is the greatest level of hell is when you come to the end of your life and you have to look your potential in the eye and say, I'm sorry I was afraid. When the person you became meets the person that you currently could have been, if only you had the courage, you could have achieved this. I actually think this a lot. So essentially takeaway, because I don't know if I said it quite right, is if I get to the end of my life and then I look at the person I was supposed to become, but I just didn't get there because I was so afraid to take the risk, I mean, the potential is gonna show to you and you're gonna be like, oh my God, I could have done all of this, but instead I didn't because I kept going out every single night and I wasted my life away on things that really didn't matter. And I should have done this and I could have done that. That feeling of regret, I don't ever want to have that feeling. And so I'm on a consistent pursuit for what else is out there. And the way that I'm doing this, not so much a desperate, it's not a desperate search. What the way that I do it is when an idea pops into my mind, I take it as a nudge and then I explore that idea further. I wrote up a whole business plan recently based on a nudge that I've gotten for the past couple of years and was like, well, let me look into this further. What realistically is possible here with this particular nudge? No, I have decided that that particular nudge may not be the best nudge for me, but I explored it all the way before I made that decision. And now I know for sure, like, you know what? I don't think that that's gonna be the smartest way for path for me to go down. Perhaps I can try this nudge instead. And then I just going from there. When these ideas pop into your minds, right? And you're thinking to yourself, you know, oh my gosh, I I really like, I really like making cookies from scratch. I just really like it. I like creating recipes, I really enjoy it. Why am I not doing this on YouTube? Like, why am I not sharing these recipes? Like somebody must be interested in this. And then, like, there you go, lean into it, try it out, give it a shot. This podcast was one of those things. Now, granted, nothing really mind-blowing. You know, it's not like the millions and millions of viewers are coming here, but I can tell you this when I started, it was just 40, and now there's several hundred. That's a pretty significant thing. And it's interesting because many, many people, myself included, get discouraged. You see all these young people, and I say young people a lot because to be perfectly honest, it irritates me that all these people have so much time to really scale and do all these things. And I'm like kind of just doing it on the side. And you see people, you know, go onto social media and everybody's just desperately trying to get the attention by doing random things and seeing what can they get to go viral and this and that. I get it because I'm I'm out there too, and I'm trying to like do my things myself as well. But then I always think back to myself, well, what about the quality? So for the podcast, for example, I could potentially be killing myself right now and continuing with guest recordings for several hours a week, which I then have to edit and post and put out there for a really long time. Any guest that came my way, as long it was, as long as it was a woman, you were gonna be on my podcast. You're gonna be on the show. Now I look through all the emails that I get with a lot more, lot closer of a lens. I can't support everybody being on the show because I don't have time for that. I'm making the show work for me because I want to still do this. This still feels in alignment with me. This still feels like something. And the more listeners that I get, it's interesting because it's people that I didn't realize were listening, are listening, have told me, like, you have a knack for this. This is really awesome. You should keep going. And it's the reinforcement that I need in those moments where I'm like, maybe I shouldn't go down this path anymore. And then that's the universe giving me the nudge. No, you're supposed to still do this. It's a roundabout way to say, if you're getting those little inklings, go for it. Because you don't want to get all the way to the last parts of your life and look back and say, Oh, I wish, I wish I had been able to do this. I wish I had actually leaned in here. Don't wish for what you could have done. Do it today. Start Bessie, and you'll figure it out along the way. I hope you enjoyed this episode. I hope you found it informative. Very grateful for all of you listening. And I will catch you on the next one. Take care.